Good luck! We had screaming with the high chair for a bit and refusal to go in it. We allow our daughter to get out of the chair during… Read more », All three of my kids have gone through this lap-sitting phase around the same age, maybe until about age 2. Sitting down at a meal and eating as a family is an important experience for children. At 18 months many are so much more into being mobile and exploring that food time is just too boring. She still says its her favorite food. They do not want to sit in their booster or eat from their own plate. No. My advice is to roll with your child's needs and moods a bit more. When toddlers get restless, yes, it is our unfortunate chore to keep offering food as they go about bumbling through their adventures, paying attention to something other than the food. However, we gave in on the lap when he wanted it, and he just grew out of it eventually. I have a very active boy and he's now seven and can sit at a table for about 15-20 tops (on a good day). Most times we would put some food on a small table and let him come by and snack as he played. Hi , My 1 1/2yr old won't sit in his high chair to eat. Amy is mother to rising first-grader Noah, preschooler Ezra, and toddler Ike. We were about to have another baby though, and figured we couldn't do this forever. You could never get my daughter to sit still for more than five minutes when she was that age, especially for meals. My little one will sit in his highchair, eating at home or out for about 30 minutes. -Run, swim, play! It also seemed to collide/coincide with the time I was slowly weaning my then 17 month old son. And when they are hungry, they are even less willing to calm down and eat. A booster seat worked for us but dd will still sit happily in a high chair when out. My daughter is now almost 4, but between 1 and 2.5 we had significant trouble with meals, so I feel like I can at least help calm your worries. Your child's behavior is appropriate for his age. Toddlers go through stages with high chairs and everything else you want them to do. Good luck! Hi My 19 month old little boy will not sit in his highchair which makes me resort to feeding him on my lap in front of the tv!! My 3 year old boy was the same way at 2.. and 1 and is finally starting to outgrow it as he's slowing down and his attention span is getting longer. We try to always eat at the same time, thereby creating a routine. We struggled with it because we did not want to let him run around with food in his mouth, and it is awkward eating with a toddler on your lap. Enter Expected Due Date. Also, we set up a booster chair for him, which he took to very well. Convertible High Chair: These chairs can stand alone or be placed on top of a dining room chair. Here’s one from IKEA: http://www.ikea.com/us/en/catalog/products/90146456/ We never had a high chair anyway, just a booster. And further, 2 is still pretty young, and I would have no qualms about feeding more bites if your son gets tired of feeding himself. You can follow Amy’s daily mothering adventures at Ama... Amalah is a pseudonym of Amy Corbett Storch. When we let him dictate any one of our responsibilities, meals become the kind of struggle you describe. Blue Space saver: Baby Jogger City Bistro High Chair. We had one of those Safety First portable high chairs that straps onto a regular chair as a booster seat and also has a tray like a high chair. We got rid of the high chair to a friend. Re: Toddler won't eat or sit in highchair by DandelionFrosting » 10 Nov 2013, 23:59 It might not be applicable, but Saurus is about the same age, and I've found that he will happily sit in his high chair, but only if I let him climb up into it by himself. Connecting with your child before mealtime will significantly reduce dinnertime battles. He feels a bit pushed around when his play is interrupted and he is lifted into place. Soft Portable Booster Seats and Toddler Trays Are you tired of frustrating meal But he’s developed an annoying little habit of refusing to sit in his high chair to eat. He’ll sit for a few minutes then scream his little head off until mum lets him out. If your toddler is getting too big for his high chair, it's time for a feeding seat. My daughter is now 4.5 years, but I could have written your post several years ago, so I can share a bit of our story and what has worked for us over the years. Energetic, active, not that interested in eating, low percentile in weight, sitting at the table for, at most a minute or two. My daughter did this. If we let him feed himself, he wouldn't eat enough. Anything to get her able to eat comfortably off the table while in a chair that does not contain YOUR lap/butt. Your child is too young to remember the lesson from day to day, and too young to conceptualize that you are denying the dinner because she won't sit in the highchair. If he only eats a few bites he will be fine. And I guess some parents are more successful at ''making'' their kids sit still. He also does better in his high chair and sitting down with our son for meals. She loves Dora so much that she can't wait to sit down and eat on Dora. '', I know he's hungry (and as a toddler he already eats next to nothing), so it's frustrating! I sit my 2 year old down at the table with us in a chair like ours so she feels like a big girl. And you can probably find one on Freecycle or Craigslist. Our son - now 3.5 - still plays while eating and while we feed him. It’s heavy enough that they can’t really push away from the table, but it’s more of a “real chair” look and gets them up to the right height. He is confined to a chair or booster, which isn't a natural state for a toddler. Booster chair? Her weight has always been below the bottom of the chart (literally less than 1 percentile!) The OG’s of kids toys created this comfy armchair as an option for kiddos ages three and up that won’t fall apart or clash with your decor. When she's a bit older, I think it will be more fun to have family meals all together - but (I think) that should be enjoyable for all, not something I am authoritatively requiring of my daughter. • Tax ID: 46-4347971, About BPN • Contact BPN • Credits • Terms of Use, Connecting Bay Area families online since 1993, Daycares & Preschools with Current Openings, Parent Classes, Workshops & Groups with Openings, Advice about Classes, Camps, Groups, & Tutors, Getting active 2 year old to stay at the table to eat, All of a sudden, 15-mo-old refuses high chair. The conversion is easy to do and only takes about 20 seconds, and the best part is you don’t need any tools to do it. We kept the food to one area and fed really messy stuff only at the table. Or a Con Law book if your spouse teaches Con Law and has a dozen different editions of these enormous books. It is definitely not a battle to fight. High chairs are for babies!f For the record, the same thing happened to my neighbor. Lastly some kids are not so hungry in the evening, so maybe he really is full...Good luck, I know how stressful the journey can be, but the book I mentioned really helped me manage my anxiety around mealtimes. So if you’re hungry, you stay in your seat. I wish I could tell you that he sits politely and eats with us at every meal but instead we've all made some compromises and as he matures he wants to emulate our behavior more than fight us-- and he's at a healthy weight so it could be worse. If you refuse to eat in your chair, it’s ok, you won’t eat! Sign up for the web’s most entertaining (while informative) weekly newsletter on your pregnancy! But the concession needs to be an alternative other than your lap. If I had time or energy, I’d look it up, but I’d hazard a guess it’s a bit of a holdover from when eating unknown things could kill you. This happened to us EXACTLY at the same time as you. Big deal. We have recently started putting a toddler fork and/or spoon on her high chair tray with her food to give her the option of using a utensil, but so far have not made a big deal out of using them. I thought it would be a problem to keep them in bed(or sitting at the table in this case). The one place she sits still briefly, is on a little chair we have on the deck where we have a small end table that's just her size. My 2.5 year old is picky, especially when he's not really hungry. She did not like being strapped into the booster or anything else. Try to hang on to what is most important to you about mealtime in the meantime. Welcome to the big kids’ table, little one! At first he spent more time playing than eating but that is definitely changing and its so much easier not to fight over every bite. It’s another mealtime battle to fight, but it’s a more worthy one than trying to cram a stiff-as-a-board screaming child into a high chair she’s probably close to outgrowing anyway. Strapping her in might cause some carry-over from her hatred of being “trapped” in the high chair, and as long as she’s seated close to you or your husband, she’ll be perfectly safe sitting on a regular chair. If you’re new here, you may not know that one of the best first strategies I share is spacing your child’s meals 2.5 – 3 hours apart with no snacking in between but water. For dinners, my toddlers would always be willing to sit for a minute or two, but we then just accepted the toddler coming in for a bite then running off after he'd been excused. This Joovy High Chair is definitely one of the best high chairs for 2020. Isabelle. It doesn't have to fit with some fantasy of a ''well-behaved child.'' You can find used ones at Darla's on San Pablo in El Cerrito or in the secondhand section of Baby World in Oakland. We have affiliate revenue relationships with Amazon, and with other retailers that are handled by third parties like Skimlinks, RewardStyle, Commission Junction and Linkshare. (More active kids may not even last that long.) There is a desert reward if he eats a meal but usually he's not that interested in it so I don't force the food. She finds some obvious delight and joy in moving and exploring and I don't have the hear to squelch it. This phase drove my husband a little nuts because he came from a big family that ate at 6 pm sharp every day. Then I let her graze at will. As I said above, he attempted to control the situation again the next night and I did the same thing! Also at about this age, toddlers often don't have much interest in eating, so meals for them are more about being with their parents -- only natural that your daughter wants to sit on your lap when you are sitting down for awhile! She’s old enough to start introducing other Satter Method basics, namely: Dinner is over once you leave the table. For the behavior part I read the book ''Child of Mine'' which was excellent about how to get the child to take the responsibility to eat, while it is our (only)responsibility to provide the food. We thought it was another phase and so we began to feed him while we read, played and occassionally while he was in the tub. We praise him for his cooperation and he is very proud of himself! That way he feels like he is sitting at the table like a big boy, rather than off in the corner in his high chair. I think if you push harder on getting the child to stay confined during eating, you're just creating unnecessary misery for all, just so you can ''win.'' My husband and I prioritize that she gets the food she needs. How do we get her to eat in her high chair again? All Rights Reserved. -Be mindful of juice and other liquids. It’s capable of holding up to 250 lbs, but you would need a very narrow behind to fit in it. The issue is now that my husband and I are at odds with how to handle this. We just have on of the cheaper plastic IKEA junior chairs and our four year old still uses it and it’s awesome. He loves his new booster seat so much! Any advice would be greatly appreciated. Perhaps if your son is still in a high chair it would be better to move him to a booster so he is more part of the table. She sits at a little table with her brother. The tray of this high chair is easy to remove with one hand, which Pampers Parents loved, and its insert is dishwasher-safe. So find a charater that your child likes and find a mat, it worked wonders. They will totally sit in my lap and eat the same food off of my plate. He enthusiastically comes to the table for all meals now and eats until he is done. I know several babies who stopped wanting to use the high chair at around the same age. But, although they can't really be forced to sit still and eat, I would think following him around trying to convince him to eat could lead to some issues, too. There is no other distraction (no TV, no computer, no cell phone) allowed at the dinner table. In the past week, she has straight up refused to go in her high chair at home. Bento forks helped initially but he no longer needs the enticement. She still somehow connects it to our baby, and perhaps because she thinks it's his, she likes using it. With the first kid we died on our sword over not doing it and eventually relented. We try to get him to eat lunch in it but usually he eats it ''on the run'' while playing outside, in the park, or sometimes even in the living room. Spoon feeding mama, Our daughter, who is almost 3 years old, was like your son. It can be converted from a high chair to a toddler’s chair, but can also be used as a regular chair for any age. Best budget high chair: IKEA's ANTILOP High Chair. I am considering getting a small table and chair for inside, but don't want to spend the money if there's some way I can teach her to stay at the big table. She does not want anything that is for a baby. We could get my son to sit still at this age for a few minutes (maybe!) She was excited to receive the seat as a present, and now uses it regularly in her own home. “Short phase?” Hahahahahahahahahahahaha!!!! I'd say -- choose your battles. Sur La Table has a great selection of individual metal cutters for $1 so you can find something he's really into (trains, dinosaurs, you name it). But there are some other alternatives: 1) A dining booster seat attached to a regular chair. My younger kid only wanted to sit on a regular chair at the table like his big brother. My son is now 5 years old and we have a pretty calm dinnertime but at 18 months it was all about how much food I could get in his piehole before he took off or basically got too nutty in his booster seat. She was fine once she sat at the table in the booster seat, and within a few days she would let us put the tray on the booster seat. Has erratic feeding habits'' Andi, I do not think your experience is shocking, I think it is pretty common. It might be time for a booster seat, similar to the plastic ones that are in restaurants. Lots of luck! From that I realized that we primarily had a behavior issue that was leading to a nutrition issue. She continued to scream for the next 10 minutes or so until I just couldn’t take it anymore (my throat was starting to hurt from listening to her). The key to him eating super well is for him to be otherwise engaged and active. Like your son, sitting in the high chair would last for about 15 seconds, and ''meals'' consisted of 2-6 bites. But their tiredness/hunger manages the problem naturally. She does sit still (now in booster seat) better than she did when she was younger. Get prepped for your tot's move to the dinner table with these feeding seat options. This website is for entertainment purpose only. Novelty works wonders when your child is unhappy, whether you’re in a stroller in a store, a grocery cart or a high chair at a restaurant. The TAG F301 Toddler Chair is a USA made with smooth and rounded corners and edges. That is also okay, if slightly terrifying in theory. We bought him a booster seat that is belted securely to the dining chair and we put the high chair away. Just be gently consistent and don't make mealtime into a contest of wills or worse, a battlezone. he sat at the table. Our kids eat from a small table. Rest assured, however, that those babies are a bit unusual. On that front they suggested we choose one high calorie food and add it to everything (ie butter, mayonaise, a nut butter) we chose mayonaise- a perfect dipping sauce for any vegetable! Let him express some agency. She gets in some bites, sitting in her spot, or kind of on the go. When this is the case, they start to wiggle and slide off their chair. In fact, it’s rare that kids under 10 (or even older) sit and eat meals at an appropriate height (most kids aged 3 to 9 years need a booster seat and a stool under their feet). It might diffuse the issue to feed her extra food at snacks and other times for a few days so if she doesn't eat much dinner it does not matter. They can get up from the table, but the food stays there. If you think that may be the case, a suggestion would be reading Healthy Sleep Habits, Happy Child. And don't worry, they do settle down. These expert ideas for fostering good mealtime habits will help. -Best wishes! Plus it doesn't set a good precedent for eating generally. During the day, the 18 mo is in share care. It turned out he simply felt he was a big boy now and wanted to eat at the table with us, on real chairs as we did. Ask your toddler to put his plate on the table, create a ritual. 2 Read aloud to your child. To the mother of the toddler who won't sit in her highchair: We had the same problem with our son at about the same age. Our 27 month old son has always been an active, busy, energetic boy. To the mother of the toddler who won't sit in her highchair: We had the same problem with our son at about the same age. She just may want to be more a part of the dinner table family. Now we don’t care. He's on the slim side (15% weight) and in our efforts to get him to eat, and eat more, we began feeding him ''on the run''. Our high chair gives us the option to remove the tray and push her up to the table, which we did try last night thinking that maybe she just wanted to sit “at the table” like us, instead of eating from her tray. So far (just two nights right now), we have told her that if she doesn't sit in the high chair, she won't get dinner. If I were you, I would try a booster seat or using the high chair without the tray at the table with a plastic placemat. Best High Chair to Fold Away- JOOVY Nook High Chair If you don’t have much space or you just don’t want to constantly look at a high chair then we’ve got the one for you. I bring toys and books and crayons and he just wants to walk around and look at other people. Chances are your child isn’t sitting at an appropriate eating height at your table. He may feel somewhat precarious in his high booster seat, strapped onto a chair. I would recommend a youth chair….we use one that my dad made, but they have some at IKEA now too. He chooses his dinner table toys and while he plays, we just shovel food in his mouth. mother-of-mealtime-daredevil. One other thing that has been working lately to get him to eat a good variety is to shape his meals into fun pictures. Anything to get her able to eat comfortably off the table while in a chair that does not contain YOUR lap/butt.”. Expensive but very worth it, as it looks like furniture and grows with a kid. This is a common problem and it creates unhappy meal times. I also remember at age 2 my daughter preferred to eat sitting on my lap, so we did that for a few months, and then phased back into her own chair. We did work on eating meals together, and she still will not eat if she is the only one eating. We had one of these and it worked great for our toddler who REFUUUUUUSED to sit anywhere but in a regular chair sans booster, even though his chin barely cleared the table. Our table is right next to theirs so we still enjoy meals together. That does not appear to be the case. (I would recommend that you try to find one with a place for her feet), I’m a big fan of grow with me chairs like the keekaroo and stokke. Yes, she’ll have the freedom to get up and leave the table. Instead, try to make it mandatory for him to sit on the high chair while eating. What I did with all three of mine was to put out food on a low table where my toddler could eat it. We started putting her toys and books on the dinner table and also bought some coloring place mat-pen sets. The battles were so annoying. It sounds like she wants to be closer to the two of you when she eats -- the distancing of the highchair is perhaps making her feel left out. 3) Alternatively, if you don’t want to buy any additional gear, you can boost her up old-school style on a phone book (WHY DO THEY STILL MAKE THOSE?) She stopped screaming and ate her supper just fine when I took her out of the high chair and put her in my lap. The phase isn't ending because he has learned that mom and dad will follow him around feeding him and he doesn't have to sit down to eat. It seems to empower them by not relying on us to get them into and out of a confining chair. mama to another active 2-year-old, I highly recommend Ellyn Satter's book ''Child of Mine'' for feeding strategies. Parents voted these high chairs the best of 2020. And once they leave the table, the meal's over. We had one that included a strap and a tray, but you might want to consider a simpler, strap-free model like this one, or even this. I think it's temperament. We got her a booster chair that buckled her in, straped it to one of our kitchen chairs and just pushed her right up to the table. I think withholding food from a toddler would not work as a punishment. But as you learned, sometimes that trick isn’t enough. Overall, my advice is to let it be, let him be himself and he will most likely model his behavior on yours and what he sees you and the rest of the family doing as he gets old enough to be capable of doing so. Ooo, just found this: http://www.askdrsears.com/topics/parenting/feeding-infants- toddlers/feeding-glance-birth-24-months Dr. Sears says for kids 18 to 24 months: ''Wants to eat on the run溶eeds creative feeding to hold attention at table. When a toddler won’t sit still in a high chair at a restaurant, you as the parent must teach them proper restaurant behavior. Our problems were compounded by the fact that she was very low on the growth chart (1%), labelled ''failure to thrive'' (despite being ahead on all physical and cognitive scales) and so we were pretty much ordered to get food in her however we could. NOT a big deal! Remove the demon high chair torture device! They can sit in a chair without the worry of falling a few feet to the ground. That means that wh… Our 17- month old used to eat all meals in his high chair but now he eats only breakfast and dinner in his high chair. Her basic rule is parents are in charge of what, when and where the kid eats (making sure at least one item on the table is something the child likes), and the kid is in charge of whether and how much to eat. I am under no illusion that he will remain compliant in his booster seat for 10-20 minutes for every meal, but it's to the point now that 30 seconds after putting him into his booster seat he goes wild, unbuckles himself (he's figured out the safety straps), stands up, and tries to jump out. Relax! We got our keekaroo used on craigslist. For some babies/toddlers, removing the tray or lowering the seat so they can eat off the table “like mom or dad” is enough. Done force feeding, I know how you feel! I’m going to lay the blame on good old classic toddler independence, rather than teething or the addition of utensils. If this doesn't work, talk to the pediatrician. Maybe this strategy will work for you. For more tips, go to WhatToExpect.com. It is up to parents to socialize their children and teach manners and wanted behaviors for reasons of family harmony and social lubrication. She just found the process frustrating, and her curiosity quickly got the better of her. He tested his control and I brought him to the room and closed the door for two and a half minutes. Getting my 19-month-old to … So we worked on how to get her to eat more than 1-3 bites at each meal, and made sure those 3 bites were as nutrient dense as possible. Could he be overtired as is sometimes the case with very active children and adults? You could consider the type of highchair which attaches to the table itself. Looking back, I believe she wanted to sit at the table, rather than off to the side in the high chair. I know this will sound shocking, but my 18-month old son won't sit still for meals. The other was that he saw his older sister sitting in a regular chair. He keeps standing in it and dropping food. […] Read the full article here: When Your Toddler Say No More High Chair! My husband and I both enjoy making food look like things (egg ducks, quesadilla trucks, veggie dog octopi, etc.) It’s your choice and that’s ok. Our daughter also did this around 15 months. Finally, do you think your son gets enough sleep? In my experience, the best way to get kids to sit down to eat, is to sit down and eat with them and only feed them when they are seated in their chair; either in the high chair, which is what we use for our 18 month old, or at the table. She was all wiggles. Being rigid about most things with toddlers is likely to create frustration and upset rather than a more compliant child. Page 2 8:00 am and 4:30 pm Pacific Standard Time or visit our website at www.babytrend.com. For us this is one of those small stages that shall pass, eventually. I work as a care-giver for toddlers, and the following tips have been very helpful to me when in your situation: -Cut out all snacks and create a rigid feeding schedule (breakfast, lunch, snack, dinner) and stick to it for a while. Hi, you don't say whether you let your son play at the dinner table. and so when she only gained 3oz between 12 and 15 months we were referred to Children's Hospital dieticians. All of a sudden my soon-to-be 15-month-old daughter refuses to eat in her high chair. However my son, who is 18 mths now, does NOT do well in a booster seat. I just kept reminding him it was an age thing and it got much better eventually. When she visited our house for dinner once, we gave her as a present one of two booster seats that were handed down to us. It's more important that your kid eat and that mealtime not be associated with stress than having him stay confined in the seat. Portable High Chair: One thing was he was entering a clingy phase, which just happens throughout their young life. We try very hard to all sit down to eat the same foods together, but when it’s obvious that she can’t wait, we’ll let her eat before us while our supper finishes cooking. This toddler chair is durable, light weight, and has I’ve been a huge fan of your common-sense “good enough” parenting advice since I found your Weekly Pregnancy Calendar. We have music on, usually jazz, and there is lots of converation. I don't believe in it. At supper time last night, my husband managed to get her into her high chair in spite of going stiff as a board and screaming her head off. LogicalMama. Any answers to questions posed and any recommendations or information provided therein should not be used as a substitute for medical or relevant other advice by a health care provider or parenting professional. anon. "Twenty minutes in a high chair is about all you can reasonably expect from a toddler," Post warns. still workng on table manners. I was recently at her house for dinner. Once our children started standing up in their highchair, we retired it, rather than fight them. If your child won’t sit in a booster, but you’re not comfortable with them sitting at the tall kitchen chairs, then a child-size set of table and chairs may be a great alternative. Both of my kids have gone through this phase. I have an 18 month old boy, a 13 year old and another one on the way. It can be very vexing. Sit next to your child and continue to challenge him to sit still. He especially enjoys when his older brother is with us for meals (I share time with his dad) as there is additional interaction, conversation, fun at the table. If she wanders with food she gets a warning and it is taken away until she sits. So, it all seems to have worked fine. As they get older, they ask to be excused and bus their plates to the sink. he won't eat and doesn't stay in his seat, etc. The kids now eat at the table, more or less nicely, until they ask to be excused, at which point they are done. Leave it to Melissa & Doug to create a fun, functional, high-quality toddler chair. When we stick to this guideline, our three year old eats really well. She isn't like some of the kids I see in restaurants who seem to stay tied into their seats for ages. However my son, who is 18 mths now, does NOT do well in a booster seat. Give it time. All of them sit at the table perfectly fine once they outgrow the phase because eventually you start to say, “no, actually we aren’t doing that anymore” and it’s not q big deal. With the second we let it happen occasionally. This may sound completely silly, but you can try ''dressing up'' meals a bit with cookie cutters to make them a bit more interesting for your child. We took off his high chair tray and let him join us at the table at his own setting, and I vowed to avoid letting him eat alone. One thing was he was entering a clingy phase, which just happens throughout their young life. If there is a question you would like answered on the Advice Smackdown, please submit it to amyadvice[at]gmail[dot]com. But yeah, try the IKEA chairs. Amy also documented her second pregnancy (with Ezra) in our wildly popular Weekly Pregnancy Calendar, Zero to Forty. I worry that this will be never-ending now that he has my husband ''trained. or a thick sturdy cushion. Amalah is a pseudonym of Amy Corbett Storch. So she will have gone to bed without dinner for two nights in a row now (though she still got her bottle before bed). -Involve them in the dinner prep-process. We make sure they get nice and hungry, by limiting snacks. What worked for us was to have a plate of food that she could come back to, ie I would stay at the table and she would run around and then come back for bites as needed. so it's not a pain. © 2016 Alpha Mom. She just doesn’t want to be confined while she eats. We were both working when the first… Read more », […] Read the full article here: When Your Toddler Says No More High Chair […], Wanted to also chime in that we also have the cheapo IKEA chair. Getting a squirmy toddler to sit at the table and eat a meal can be a huge challenge. Don’t make it a habit to feed your child anywhere else, in case he hates his high chair. They were stoked to have a real chair fit just for… Read more ». Built-to-grow: Stokke Tripp Trapp High Chair. I mean it when I say that every day he is getting better at this!! Sitting at one is something grown ups do. Sure, he prefers to NOT be confined. For dinner and breakfast, he eats standing at the dining table on a step stool so he can easily get down and go be busy and come back to eat. That’s literally the ONLY thing we have changed in her recent dining experience. at best. You can read more at http://www.ellynsatter.com/. Initially, we would still put food in her mouth while she played with her toys or read or drew on her placemat, but she sat for increasingly longer periods of time and eventually started picking food off her plate as she played. My philosophy is that I am responsible for providing decent food for my child to grow, and I can work with her on how/when she gets the food into her body. He straightens and tenses his entire body which makes it very dangerous to try and hold him A 16-month old friend of ours refused to eat any way other than standing. Terms and Conditions | Privacy Policy | Site by CooperHouse, Pick Your Battles: Toddler vs. High Chair, Potty Training: Out-Stubborning the Stubbornest of Stubborn Kids. Sitting on our laps is fine, if that works. She will, however, have a bite of food, run down the hall, run back and have more food. We adopted this idea from daycare, where state law prohibits kids from walking around with food due to the chocking risks. As she got a little older (over 2) we would often hold her on our lap to eat. It's OK. T.K. “3) Alternatively, if you don’t want to buy any additional gear, you can boost her up old-school style on a phone book (WHY DO THEY STILL MAKE THOSE?) Up until now, she has always been a great eater and easily transitioned from purees to finger foods, preferring the control she has with them. It may engage him long enough for you to finish your errand. He eventually snapped out of it around 19 months, BUT…BUT we never relented by letting him wander around or sit in the grownup chair on his own. Lots of young toddlers reject the high chair at some point — it cramps their newfound independence, makes them feel different/distant from parents or siblings, or they’ve correctly identified it as a “baby” thing and I NOT A BABY. When your toddler is big enough to sit on a regular chair, the legs of the high chair can separate from the seat, and the seat can be placed on the chair to be used as a booster seat. Since it is just an age thing and he won't be eating like this at 8 years old, I lean towards your husband's laid back approach of feeding him where and when you can. My philosophy has been to try to encourage but not to force compliance, except for a few mandatory things like the carseat where compliance is the only safe way. How about a different kind of chair? __________________________________________________________________ Thanks! best wishes eat, eat, eat. I think your daughter may simply be ready for the next step. This is not only a choking hazard, it’s also counter-productive, as the more you allow him to do it, the less likely it is that he’ll ever consent to being placed in a highchair at mealtimes! She sat better in the Keekaroo vs her new oxo booster due to the foot rest, now she’s very wiggley. I usually see results immediately, if not by the end of the week. I have looked through the Smackdown questions but I can’t find one related to this phase we seem to be in the middle of with our 17-month old daughter (only child). The boys will sit together for breakfast, as well. I think she enjoyed the physical challenge of getting herself out of her high chair and she has never liked confinement (car seat for only short trips when she was that age). I don't think your kid is ''training'' you in some manipulative way. We actually changed our directions to our nanny to not feed them lunch at the park or snacks when they're out and about to help get our friend's child better on track for eating full meals. Instead, gently enforce the idea of eating being equated with sitting on a high chair in his small head. I’m hoping that this is just a short phase that will be over by the time you get to answer this, but I would love to hear your thoughts. Toddlers at that age are just too excited about exploring life to sit and eat, like, at all! So yeah. We made sure there was enough stuff at the table to keep her interested and occupied enough to eat her food there. She wants to sit in our lap at the dining room table and eat there. My youngest has almost completely outgrown the grazing phase. We ended up feeding her "on the run" too (pretty much chasing her around and putting food in her mouth) and did so until recently because it was the easiest way for us to feel like she was getting enough nutrition. My mom keeps her while we work and she has been putting up a little more fight than usual there, too (although it is characteristic for her to behave much better for my mom than for me… we like to push the limits around here!). Also, it’s pronounced AIM-ah-lah. You may want to borrow one from a friend and see whether your daughter takes to it. Our highchair has gone into temporary storage in the basement. He screams at the top of his lungs when I tell him no. Good luck! Also, on the advice of a dietician we tried to add fat/calories to every meal. If you see a link to a retailer, please assume that it is an affiliate link. I don't think a 15 month old would remember why they are not getting food for very long, and then you have an even crankier child. I had 3 and 4 year old boys over and they were so excited to sit in his chair which I adjusted for them. So hang in there, these little guys won't let themselves starve as long as quality food is offered. Just be clear and cheerful about it, it will work! Please help! She was happy as a lark! Please do not return to the store as once it is returned it cannot be resold and … She won't sit in the booster seat. We could also put her high chair at the table, but she never liked that (I think the chair became too much of an issue, so now she doesn't want to use it). If the food is out on the counter or a table, then as soon as the toddler is placed in the high chair, the toddler will instantly ask someone to get them down so they can go grab the food...and if a toddler asks for anything, it completely screws up your queue of actions, even if you have autonomy off. You can follow Amy’s daily mothering adventures at Amalah. I suggest you tell him that from now on he eats at mealtime at the table (maybe a snack mid-morning and/or afternoon). I also second the posters who have suggested getting your child involved in meal prep. Over time her weight increased a little, and her meal time behavior become more ''adult''. […]. When your child refuses to sit in his high chair when you feed him alone but has no problem eating with the rest of the family, he probably feels lonely in the high chair. They chat back and forth (toddlerese), share food and generally have a great time. There are lots of developmental benefits. I changed around my work schedule to ensure that I would try to make a homecooked… Read more ». There were several babies 15-19 months old, and she said, Is anyone's baby still eating in a high chair? Not sure how you feel about having your son play while he sits at the dinner table with you, but hopefully he will start playing less and eating more as time goes by. or a thick sturdy cushion. 4) For non-family meals that she typically eats solo, a separate toddler/kids table and chair set is a great option. He absolutely hates being strapped in anywhere – car seat, pram, high chair. Your child will only become increasingly more obnoxious with ridiculous battles for the next few years. Learning to sit up is an important and exciting skill for babies to develop, but it doesn’t happen overnight. One toddler I struggled with at meal-time became a champion eater when we stopped offering juice/milk an hour or so before lunch and dinner. We're all delighted--the booster chair is a lot easier to clean. My oldest kid was content to sit in his booster seat at the table instead. (My nephew will still sit in his high chair at 4 so every kid is different.) We needed the high chair for my son, so we really didn't have much choice. If your baby is able to sit up by themselves and starting to eat solid foods, it’s probably time to consider adding a high chair to your kitchen set-up. I wouldn't mind them except that's it's difficult to keep the toddler We just transitioned our 4 year old out of it so we can hide a bit so it won’t be “hers” when the baby is ready for it. For example, the kiddos I work with now are much more likely to eat all of their broccoli if I put it on their plates before other foods, like pasta are ready. While she was strapped in, we attempted to go about supper as usual, but she didn’t seem to take the hint. His friend is about a month older and his parents have had some difficulties getting him to eat meals consistently. Your (and our) child WILL become a civilized eater someday but he's a toddler, there's too much fun to have, things to do and see and he doesn't want to miss a second of it. We're frustrated and realize we're out of ideas. This is not only frustrating, I am afraid she's going to choke. We were lucky that he never figured out the buckles though, you've got me on that one. My 2.5 year old will not sit still for dinner--if it's in her highchair she climbs up and sits on the edge, and then stands up so we have to get her down or fear she'll fall; if it's the dining room table, she stands up on the chair, or gets down, if it's in one of our laps, that lasts for a bite. She was the same kid that climbed out of the crib and over the baby gate. When I let him out (he was very upset the whole time and it was torturous!) I am of the, ''When you're done, you're done'' mentality, whereas my husband will sit on the floor with him and feed him, or pick him up and feed him from his lap when this happens. She has been cutting a tooth, but they haven’t really affected her like this in the past. This parallels our crib approach: as soon as the child starts climbing out we put their mattress on the floor. Can you remove the tray and move the chair up to the table or buy a booster seat and let your toddler sit at the table. relax about meal confinement. Using up lots of energy, running, swimming, and exploring before meal time is the best thing I can do to get children to eat and not try to wander away from the table. Even with my chasing her practically all day with food when she ws 18 months old, my daughter now, at age three, is capable of a 15 to 20-minute sit down at dinner. http://www.askdrsears.com/topics/parenting/feeding-infants- toddlers/grazing Your son will be able to sit for meals when he's older. S, Agree with Traci about the Keekaroo. That happened at my house at just about your kid's age. She's incredibly well behaved in every other aspect, she's definitely getting enough healthy food to eat throughout the day and speaks and understands clearly when we talk to her--she just doesn't follow our request/insistence/firmness/nicely asking/etc to sit down to eat for a few minutes. The other I'm not sure an almost 15 month old can fully comprehend the punishment of going to bed without any dinner. We do often read to her (if only one parent is present) Recently we have worked on including her in dinner conversation- if my husband and I are talking alone, she usually wants to leave the meal. Toys R Us has new ones. Anyway, best of luck. Has anyone been through a similar situation and have ideas? Nope. And yes, she under-ate all the time. -When you serve meals, put the healthiest items on the plate first. An 18-month-old is still a baby, for all practical purposes and intents. Not by your son's behavior, but by the fact that you find his behavior shocking. He'll sit in his chair at the table and eat maybe 1-3 bites then he's off running and says he's not hungry. When he gets up and says he isn't hungry, believe him. On many an occasion i would look longingly at those babies, much younger than her, who could apparently sit in their highchairs for half an hour to 45 minutes as their families enjoyed a leisurely meal at a restaurant. Be on a schedule – Yes, I’m talking about the schedule again. We serve their food on the small table and let them go wash their hands, sit and eat. It will pass. He sits in his booster seat and cannot really leave the table on his own once he's sitting down. He won't starve to death, and if he says later that he is hungry, remind him that mealtime is for eating and next time he can stay longer at the table and eat more. So if your stubborn toddler won’t quiet down in his seat, hand him a magazine from the book or magazine aisle or from a rack near the cashier. Then I bought her a Dora mat. So, when I say schedule, I’m not talking about a specific time of the day, but an interval. But recently I found a solution. So two things you DEFINITELY do not want at the dinner table: a toddler screaming her head off in a high chair, or a toddler eating her meals on your lap. The compromise worked well for my sanity. I'm going through the exact same thing right now. I'd say always start at the table and try gently to enforce it for a few minutes, just to let him know that this is where you are supposed to be when you eat. Your child may resist a few times, so don’t use any force. Your post is not shocking at all! Chances are your toddler isn't ever getting that hungry because snacks are always available. Since you are asking for advice, I am going to be straightforward here and say you really need to relax and adjust your expectations. It is also designed with an extra wide seat and backrest for your kid to sit and lean on. Also, by letting him decide he has had enough, you are letting him learn to listen to his own body and regulate his appetite himself, instead of doing it for him. I don't think an 18-month-old can really grasp that kind of ''consequence,'' so I don't think saying he's done when he leaves the table is necessarily going to work well. Should we put him back into a high chair so the tray will keep him confined? Your husband is not ''training'' your son to be a manipulative little brat who is going to expect to be fed whenever and wherever he wants. I’m all about choosing my battles, but getting her to continue forward with building independence seems pretty important, so I hate to keep giving in to her demands to sit in my lap during meal times. Lots of young toddlers reject the high chair at some point — it cramps their newfound independence, makes them feel different/distant from parents or siblings, or they’ve correctly identified it as a “baby” thing and I NOT A BABY. 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